Unhappiness in marriage often has a simple root cause: we speak different love languages, believes Dr. Gary Chapman.
While working as a marriage counselor for more than 30 years, he identified five love languages: Words of Affirmation,
Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. In a friendly, often humorous style, he unpacks each
one. Some husbands or wives may crave focused attention; another needs regular praise. Gifts are highly important to one
spouse, while another sees fixing a leaky faucet, ironing a shirt, or cooking a meal as filling their "love tank." Some
partners might find physical touch makes them feel valued: holding hands, giving back rubs, and sexual contact. Chapman
illustrates each love language with real-life examples from his counseling practice.
How do you discover your spouse’s – and your own – love language? Chapman’s short questionnaires are one of several
ways to find out. Throughout the book, he also includes application questions that can be answered more extensively in
the beautifully detailed companion leather journal (an exclusive Amazon.com set). Each section of the journal
corresponds with a chapter from the book, offering opportunities for deeper reflection on your marriage.
Although some readers may find choosing to love a spouse that they no longer even like –hoping the feelings of
affection will follow later– a difficult concept to swallow, Chapman promises that the results will be worth the effort.
"Love is a choice," says Chapman. "And either partner can start the process today." --Cindy Crosby. This text refers to
the Amazon.com Exclusive Journal & Paperback Book Set.