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Each hour, 75 women are raped in the United States, and every few seconds, a woman is beaten. Each day, 400 Americans
suffer shooting injuries, and another 1,100 face criminals armed with guns. Author Gavin de Becker says victims of
violent behavior usually feel a sense of fear before any threat or violence takes place. They may distrust the fear, or
it may impel them to some action that saves their lives. A leading expert on predicting violent behavior, de Becker
believes we can all learn to recognize these signals of the "universal code of violence," and use them as tools to help
us survive. The book teaches how to identify the warning signals of a potential attacker and recommends strategies for
dealing with the problem before it becomes life threatening. The case studies are gripping and suspenseful, and include
tactics for dealing with similar situations.
People don't just "snap" and become violent, says de Becker, whose clients include federal government agencies,
celebrities, police departments, and shelters for battered women. "There is a process as observable, and often as
predictable, as water coming to a boil." Learning to predict violence is the cornerstone to preventing it. De Becker is
a master of the psychology of violence, and his advice may save your life. --Joan Price
A Q&A with Gavin de Becker
Question: In today’s world, where terror and tragedy seem omnipresent, the fear of violence never seems more
heightened. Is the world a more violent place than it ever has been? Gavin de Becker : Your question contains much of
the answer: today’s world, "where terror and tragedy seem omnipresent..." The key word is "seem." When TV news coverage
presents so much on these topics, it elevates the perception of terrorism and tragedy way beyond the reality. In every
major city, TV news creates forty hours of original production every day, most of it composed and presented to get our
attention with fear. Hence an incident on an airplane in which a man fails to do any damage is treated as if the
make-shift bomb actually exploded. It didn’t. Imagine having a near miss in your car, avoiding what would have been a
serious collision--and then talking about every hour for months after the fact. Welcome to TV news.
To the second part of your question, No, the world is not a more violent place than it has ever been, however we live
as if it were. The U.S. is the most powerful nation in world history--and also the most afraid.
Question: Your bestselling book The Gift of Fear gives many examples to help readers recognize what you call
pre-incident indicators (PINS) of violence. What role does intuition play in recognizing these signals?
Gavin de Becker: Like every creature on earth, we have an extraordinary defense resource: We don’t have the sharpest
claws and strongest jaws--but we do have the biggest brains, and intuition is the most impressive process of these
brains. It might be hard to accept its importance because intuition is often described as emotional, unreasonable, or
inexplicable. Husbands chide their wives about "feminine intuition" and don’t take it seriously. If intuition is used by
a woman to explain some choice she made or a concern she can’t let go of, men roll their eyes and write it off. We much
prefer logic, the grounded, explainable, unemotional thought process that ends in a supportable conclusion. In fact,
Americans worship logic, even when it’s wrong, and deny intuition, even when it’s right. Men, of course, have their own
version of intuition, not so light and inconsequential, they tell themselves, as that feminine stuff. Theirs is more
viscerally named a "gut feeling," but whatever name we use, it isn’t just a feeling. It is a process more extraordinary
and ultimately more logical in the natural order than the most fantastic computer calculation. It is our most complex
cognitive process and, at the same time, the simplest.
Intuition connects us to the natural world and to our nature. It carries us to predictions we will later marvel at.
"Somehow I knew," we will say about the chance meeting we predicted, or about the unexpected phone call from a distant
friend, or the unlikely turnaround in someone’s behavior, or about the violence we steered clear of, or, too often, the
violence we elected not to steer clear of. The Gift of Fear offers strategies that help us recognize the signals of
intuition--and helps us avoid denial, which is the enemy of safety.
Question: Your latest book, Just 2 Seconds, has been called a "masterpiece" of analysis on the art of preventing
assassination. It contains an entire compendium of attacks on protected persons across the globe. What motivated you to
put together such a definitive reference? What tenets can be applied to one’s everyday life?
Gavin de Becker: Most of all, we wrote the book we needed. My co-authors and I had long looked for an extensive
collection of attack summaries from which important new insights could be harvested. Unable to find it, we committed to
do the work ourselves, eventually collecting more than 1400 cases to analyze. Many new insights and concepts emerged
from the study, and the one most applicable to day to day life, even for people who are not living with unusual risks,
is to be in the present; pre-sent, as it were. Now is the only time anything ever happens--now is where the action is.
All focus on anything outside the Now (the past, memory, the future, fantasy) detracts focus from what’s actually
happening in your environment. Human being have the capacity to look right at something and not see it, and in studying
such a crisp event--the few seconds during which assassinations have occurred--Just 2 Seconds aims to enhance the
reader’s ability to see the value of the present moment.
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