The secret behind France's astonishingly well-behaved children. When American journalist Pamela Druckerman has a baby
in Paris, she doesn't aspire to become a "French parent." French parenting isn't a known thing, like French fashion or
French cheese. Even French parents themselves insist they aren't doing anything special.
Yet, the French children Druckerman knows sleep through the night at two or three months old while those of her
American friends take a year or more. French kids eat well-rounded meals that are more likely to include braised leeks
than chicken nuggets. And while her American friends spend their visits resolving spats between their kids, her French
friends sip coffee while the kids play.
Motherhood itself is a whole different experience in France. There's no role model, as there is in America, for the
harried new mom with no life of her own. French mothers assume that even good parents aren't at the constant service
of their children and that there's no need to feel guilty about this. They have an easy, calm authority with their kids
that Druckerman can only envy.
Of course, French parenting wouldn't be worth talking about if it produced robotic, joyless children. In fact, French
kids are just as boisterous, curious, and creative as Americans. They're just far better behaved and more in command
of themselves. While some American toddlers are getting Mandarin tutors and preliteracy training, French kids are- by
design-toddling around and discovering the world at their own pace.
With a notebook stashed in her diaper bag, Druckerman-a former reporter for The Wall Street Journal-sets out to learn
the secrets to raising a society of good little sleepers, gourmet eaters, and reasonably relaxed parents. She
discovers that French parents are extremely strict about some things and strikingly permissive about others. And she
realizes that to be a different kind of parent, you don't just need a different parenting philosophy. You need a very
different view of what a child actually is.
While finding her own firm non, Druckerman discovers that children-including her own-are capable of feats she'd never