Imported from USA
From the Author
Is It Truly Possible To Resolve Psychological Issues Through a Self-Help Book?
Have you ever been in a positive mood only to have something seemingly very small happen, perhaps someone made a casual
off-handed criticism of you, but for some weird reason you felt immediately deflated, and found yourself feeling almost
like a child again, small, afraid, and helpless?
Have you ever lost your temper with someone you really care about, maybe even someone you love very much, but suddenly
you found yourself saying things and acting in ways that were not the way you really feel about that person, and later
you regretted your actions deeply?
Have you ever really wanted to find the motivation to do something in your life, like start a new diet plan for example,
but despite all your best efforts, you felt as if something was sabotaging you, and maybe you even found yourself
standing in front of an open refrigerator at midnight, staring longingly at the rest of that chocolate cake?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, there is nothing to worry about, and you are certainly not alone.
In fact, from the viewpoint of "Internal Family Systems" (IFS), you are perfectly normal.
The problem in each of these situations is simply a part (or parts) that is over-reacting. In the first case, there is a
part that is holding you back that you're not aware of. In the second, there is a part that exploded in anger.
Most of us prefer to think of ourselves as one, unitary, sensible personality. But human beings are not as simple and
straightforward as we may like to think.
In reality, we are complex systems of interacting parts, each with a variety of emotions and motivations.
IFS has a sophisticated way of working with your "parts," which are natural divisions in the psyche, sometimes called
subpersonalities. This approach has been rapidly spreading across the entire country for the past decade and is being
applauded by patients and therapists for its incredible effectiveness.
You can think of these parts as little people inside of you. Each with their own perspectives, beliefs, feelings,
memories, and motivations.
Some of your parts are in pain. Some of your parts want to protect you from pain. Some of your parts try to manage how
you interact with others. Some of your parts are even locked in battles with each other that have been going on for
And most of the time, all of this is completely outside our awareness.
All we know is that sometimes we feel great, sometimes we feel nervous, sometimes we feel frustrated, confused, angry,
and so on. And if we are honest with ourselves, we don't really understand why.
Your True Self, The Source of All Healing
Unfortunately many people spend their whole lives thinking that this surface dance of emotional states is all there is
to life. However, underlying this cast of characters, and within every human being is the true Self that is wise, calm,
open and loving.
IFS is specifically designed to help you access this Self. Once you are in touch with your Self, from this incredible
place of strength and love, you can connect with your troubled parts and heal them.
It's through the Self that you can heal your own wounds and watch as all of your parts reclaim and reveal their natural
strength and goodness.
What Makes IFS So Powerful?
Internal Family Systems is more powerful than other therapeutic approaches for three main reasons:
* The Self. Healing comes from your true Self, and IFS has innovative ways of helping to access your Self and remain
there during a session.
* Internal Love. IFS has discovered that all your parts are doing their best to help and protect you. This means that
you don't have to fight them or try to get rid of them. You can connect with them from the compassion of Self and
develop cooperative, trusting relationships with them. This makes transformation much easier.
* A Step-by-Step Procedure. IFS understands the complex structure of the psyche and has developed a sophisticated
procedure for healing each of your parts. There is no guesswork. You don't wallow around for years in your childhood.
IFS has laser-like precision and efficiency.
Self-Therapy: A Complete Guide To Psychological HealingTherapy does not have to be difficult, time-consuming or
Relief from chronic, painful, life-long emotional issues, such as depression and anxiety, is possible and can be
entirely in your control.
You simply need an effective framework for understanding and communicating with the various parts of yourself, along
with a step-by-step process for transforming these parts into healthy resources.
This is the promise of Self-Therapy, a clear guide by Dr. Jay Earley that explains exactly how to you can heal deep
wounds, resolve stuck places, and restore wholeness, strength, self-confidence, and joy to your life.
What Makes Self-Therapy So Effective?
1. It is based on Internal Family Systems, a full-fledged form of therapy.
IFS is actually much much more than another therapeutic technique.
In actuality it is both a revolutionary way of understanding the human psyche and a complete practice for learning to
love yourself and others.
Self-Therapy teaches you to engage in IFS sessions on your own or with a partner. You learn a complete method of
therapy, designed from years of clinical work with a wide variety of individuals and a wide range of psychological
2. IFS is a user-friendly form of therapy.
The IFS model taught in Self-Therapy is not only effective but also extraordinarily user friendly.
It is natural to visualize your parts, give them names, and talk to them. It brings your psyche alive in a way that is
easy to grasp.
3. IFS is based on the Self, so it can be used without a therapist.
In IFS it is not the therapist or any outside force that "fixes" you.
In IFS the source of healing is You; the source of healing is your true Self.
Your true Self is who you really are in the deepest sense.
Your true Self is compassionate, openly curious, connected, and calm.
Even when working with a therapist or another IFS practitioner, it is always your true Self that is the agent of healing
in the IFS approach.
As you introduce your suffering parts to the Self, they each develop a trusting and healing relationship with the Self.
Through this, an unstoppable momentum of transformation unfolds.
4. Self-Therapy brings IFS to life.
It contains transcripts of actual sessions and illustrations that bring parts vividly to life. It also has help sheets
that outline the IFS process which you can use during sessions to know what to do next. And there are exercises that can
be be applied directly from the book in your life.
Can Self-Therapy Help Me With My Issue?
Internal Family Systems can help with both mental health symptoms and a wide variety of complex life issues, such as:
* Relationship Problems
* Passive-Aggressive Behavior
* Communication Issues
* People Pleasing
* Eating Issues
* Inner Critic
* Fear and anxiety
* Feelings of inner conflict
* Insecurity on the job
A Must Read For Therapist And Client Alike
With Self-Therapy, Dr. Jay Earley makes the power of IFS accessible to everyone by teaching it as a complete method for
psychological healing that anyone can use on their own.
And Self-Therapy is also the book of choice for therapists wanting to learn Internal Family Systems Therapy.
Therapists and existing IFS practitioners will appreciate this clear map of the IFS model, which includes transcripts
from actual therapy sessions, illustrations that explain complex and subtle dynamics in the psyche, and detailed tips on
how to proceed in various circumstances that may come up during a session.
Self-Therapy constitutes a complete manual for the IFS procedure.
Self-Therapy is simply an absolute must read for every therapist seeking to move their clients beyond tolerable recovery
to a deeper, more complete process of healing.
From the Inside Flap
Jay has the gift of both insight and teaching--and he uses both in his new book. He allows us access to the
many layers of our selves and helps us to understand, work with and ultimately feel harmonious with behaviors that have
baffled us. Self-therapy is a wonderful cogent guide written by a wonderful cogent teacher.
-- Geneen Roth, author of When Food is Love and Women Food and God
The fact that Jay Earley wrote this book is high praise for the IFS model because he was an accomplished writer and
thinker, steeped in systems thinking, long before encountering IFS. Jay's passion has been to introduce IFS to a lay
audience in such a way that people can work with their parts on their own--without the need for a therapist. Through
Jay's user-friendly description of IFS, you will begin to change how you do "self talk," or internal dialogue. Through
well-described experiential exercises and examples of actual IFS sessions, you will be able to enter your inner world in
such a way that your extreme parts begin to heal. Rather than just coping with them, you welcome them and transform them
into valuable resources.
-- Richard Schwartz, PhD, creator of IFS, from the foreword
Enormously hopeful and empowering, this book illuminates the process of Internal
Family Systems (IFS) as a method of self-therapy that centers on the revolutionary
principle that all of us have a Self. Presenting a view of the human psyche with
this calm, compassionate, curious Self at the center, Jay Earley takes the reader
step-by-step through a method of self-exploration which views overwhelming
emotion and dysfunctional behavior as stemming from parts that are doing their
best to help the person survive. Earley's writing is beautifully organized and clear,
as compassionate and respectful as the process he is teaching, and the reader is
supported and encouraged at every step. Anyone wishing to live a fuller, richer,
more meaningful life, or help others do so, needs to read this book.
-- Ann Weiser Cornell, PhD, author of The Power of Focusing and The Radical
Acceptance of Everything
The non-pathologizing and empowering aspects of the IFS Model find their
ultimate expression in Dr. Earley's book, Self-Therapy. Exercises, illustrations, and
session transcripts supplement this detailed approach for individuals to safely
work alone or with a peer to transform their inner worlds dominated by outmoded
beliefs to lives filled with love, compassion, and connection. Therapists, too, will
appreciate this clear map of the inner territory of the psyche and will find this book
a valuable and accessible resource for their clients.
-- Susan McConnell, senior IFS trainer
Self-Therapy is an invaluable resource, an absolute must for all therapists who want
to move their clients beyond tolerable recovery to a more thorough process of
healing. It is a gift to those of us who want to offer a gentle excavation of wounds
resulting in a beautiful new landscape.
-- Cheryl Ades, LCSW, Louisville, KY
Jay presents an exceptionally clear explanation of the IFS model. He provides
"user friendly" directions on how therapists and clients can use the process. I can
apply it directly from this book.
-- Kevin J Miller, PhD, Florham Park, NJ
Jay has a very thorough understanding of IFS and an uncanny ability to break it
down into small enough chunks to make it accessible to novices while still making
it stimulating for experienced IFS practitioners. Self-Therapy demystifies therapy
and empowers people to work on themselves to expand and heal their lives.
-- Kira Freed, M.A., LPC, CLC, Tucson, AZ
The inside of the psyche is so hard to describe, and Jay does a great job of making it
accessible. The illustrations really helped me to get a visual notion of the concepts.
Self-Therapy describes each idea in many different ways, so that something sticks
for each person. It really adds to the professional IFS literature.
-- Kathy Grace, M.A., LPC, Chapel Hill, North Carolina
See all Editorial Reviews (