The Queen's Code

As a man reading this book, it does give a deeper insight into what might be going on from my wife's perspective that I would not have ever come up with on my own. This helps me 1 be more compassionate and understanding when it comes to the misunderstandings as man and woman, and 2 also helps me communicate what my needs are as a man more eloquently instead of what may come off as brutish man speak or what ever. Very very good book for men and women both to read.

I highly recommend this book, but I recommend that you first read "the Keys to the Kingdom" because it explains some fundamentals about men that will help make sense of what is taught in this book. The way the story is told in "the Queen's Code" is a continuation of the story that began in "The Keys to the Kingdom" I know several reviews mentioned that this book could have been shorter and written more straight to the point, and yes, that is true However, her writing does have a purpose in that it unravels current belief systems to make room for new belief systems. I don't think that would be possible with a more concise straight to the point writing style. When I was researching the book I stumbled upon a PDF document that took notes on this book, "The Queen's Code." I read through the notes and thought to myself "I already know all of this stuff, so this book isn't going to help me at all." I read "Keys to the Kingdom" instead and I am glad that I did, because I learned a lot and it ended up inspiring me to purchase "The Queen's Code." As I was reading "The Queen's Code" I revisited the PDF with the notes, and suddenly I understood the meaning behind the notes. One example is being open, receptive and vulnerable. Most women know that already and we have an idea of what that might mean and look like from a woman's point of view, but we really don't know what that means from a man's point of view, what being open, receptive and vulnerable does to a man, and what kind of openness, receptiveness and vulnerability men desire. Please don't brush this off as "I know what being open, receptive and vulnerable means." If you've had little success in fulfilling relationships with men, then you truly don't know what being open, receptive and vulnerable means from a man's perspective (amongst other things) and you may benefit from the refreshing perspective and explanation this book offers, along with "The Keys to the Kingdom" You're most likely here because you want something to change and get better, but may not now how, and most of the time, what you're resistant to is most likely going to challenge your core beliefs, and perhaps your core beliefs are the reason you ended up searching for a solution to begin with. My guess is that at this point, you don't have much else to lose and just want things to get better. In that case, I highly recommend you start with "The Keys to the Kingdom" (and please ignore the neutral and negative reviews to that book) and then continue with the "Queen's Code." They complement each other in a beautiful way and work together hand in hand to improve your relationships with men. Please give them a try 🤍 I promise, you will have a shift in perspective & understanding of men, and a shift in behavior, which will positively impact your relationship with men in general.

Highly recommend. This author has a way of teaching you such important lessons in a way that flows. Every paragraph has a monumental lesson, but it feels so easy to understand, absorb, and relate to. Highly recommend to all women ❤️ let’s change the world!

Illuminating! I am recommending this book to every woman I can think may be open to changing their outlook on men. A lot of hard truths to swallow, but the author reveals them to us in such a compassionate and loving way.

This book may have *saved my relationship* within 8 hours of my starting the book, and I'm only 15% of the way through it!! First, let me qualify my background, and why I bought this book: I'm an expert on men. No, really. Oh sure, lots of people may say that, but I actually mean that I am a professional expert on men. No, I'm not a lady of the evening, I'm something much lower than that - I'm a lawyer. In fact, I was one of the very first fathers' rights lawyers in the United States, with a career spanning about 30 years working with single fathers, and a *lot* of that was counselling and coaching them. So, I got, very early on, how men communicate, filter, react, share, bottle up (did I mention react) *much* differently than women, and how the translation that takes place between "she speaks, he hears" and "he speaks, she hears" is *so very vital to understand*! (Oh yeah, I'm also an author of a book on men - and coach about the differences between men and women - specifically for single fathers.) I'm also very familiar with what our society is doing to our boys (and causing our women and girls to do to our boys - have you ever seen the "Boys are stupid, throw rocks at them" products? No? Here you go: Boys Are Stupid Throw Rocks At Them t-shirt Think you could get away with a "girls are stupid, throw rocks at them" product line?) I actually heard about this book from a friend who was basically mocking it. That made me curious, so I came to Amazon to look it up. And, based on my work with men, and advocacy for boys, when I saw *men* posting reviews, saying things like "I have to say that this book blew my mind. Having a feminist mother and growing up in a time when men have been looked down upon for being men, I grew up knowing masculine shame," I knew I had to get it and read it. I have to tell you it was *so* refreshing to read another woman who gets it! And who gets that by trying to make men be like women we are not only doing a disservice to men, and screwing up our boys, but that we are doing a disservice to *ourselves* (women). By *honouring* the differences, it allows men to also honour *our* differences. But much more importantly, in this book Armstrong really explains how what we do to men is causing *us* (again, women) so much frustration, resentment, and anger, and robbing us of the joy *we ourselves* can experience. No, this is *not* a Dr. Laura-esque "wrap yourself in saran wrap and submit to your man" book. Not at all. It's a "understand the differences, and speak to his strengths instead of bitching about his weaknesses - which are often *your* perception of 'weakness', and not really a weakness at all - it's a *difference*" book. (Ok, I feel like I'm getting on a soapbox now...let me climb back down (I'm only 5'3, so I need that soapbox).) What is interesting about this book is that rather than a typical "do this, do that" tome, it's a narrative told in the form of a story. Sure, some of it is a little hokey ("frog farmer"? Really?) but the brilliance of this is that it gets the point across in a way that isn't all "do this, do that" or preachy. So, I got the book last night, and started reading it. I got about 15% of the way through (got the Kindle edition, that's how I know). Then I put out the light and went to sleep. This morning, I had a conversation with TMWMITU (The Most Wonderful Man in the Universe). It was a conversation - about a potentially touchy subject - which could have gone very, *very* wrong. But, as the conversation was unfolding I suddenly remembered the things I'd read last night...and ohmygod...this was *exactly* that sort of situation. So I took a deep breath, and practiced what I'd read just 8 hours earlier. Which blew me away because, in case I haven't mentioned it, I've been working in this field for nearly 30 years. But that's the magic of this book - you read it like a story, and it sticks in your head for when you need it. And guess what? ...TAHDAH! What *could* have been an awful, even relationship-ending conversation, instead went down the path of a *fantastic* conversation, with a wonderful resolution, and me feeling closer to him and happier than ever! (Now, wouldn't you like to feel that way?? If your answer is "no", then I submit that you need this book even more, because you may well be holding on to a lot of resentment, and self-righteous anger.) Because this book is truly right in my own wheelhouse of my expertise, I sincerely invite any of you to drop me a line (click on my name and "see more" to find my email address) and ask me any question that you may have, and that you think I could be helpful in answering.

From my perspective being male, I found the information presented by Alison in her book The Queens Code to be on point. I don't recall there being anything I found objectional. I loved the way the storyline and the information flowed. In my own life, I have tried to convey some of the same sentiments, definitely not as articulate or concise as Alison presents them here. Three things I truly appreciate about this book: 1. It helped me to clearly understand what I was feeling. 2. It helped me to clarify the ideas I wanted to convey. 3. The Queens code speaks to an issue long plaguing male/female relationships and offered a solution. Take aways: - Building up a man gets the woman what she needs faster and more often than tearing him down. - Emasculating men never motivates them. - Open communication, honesty, and setting expectations are important in any relationship. - Sharing with your partner what you need from them and what it means or provide to you when they do it. I love this book. It is a great read and I have recommended it to whoever I believe will benefit from reading it, male or female. I have even bought copies for my girls, ages 33 and 25. My hope is that when they have completed the book, we can have an open discussion about the concepts presented by Alison.

I think this book has the ability to change lives, relationships and marriages in an amazing way! It truly was a pleasure to read. Its focus on the different ways that men and women approach the world is truly helpful and eye-opening. Highly recommended!

I adore this novel style relationship book!!! It's readable and helpful!