Models: Attract Women Through Honesty

The problem with reviews of self-help books is that almost nobody tells you whether the advice actually worked for them. So let's cut the crap. Will following the advice in this book improve your lot with women? Yes, yes it will. And I will crudely back it up with numbers: In the 10 or so years before reading this book, I'd been mostly single and had sexual relations with 4 women. In a year of being single after reading this book, the number had risen to 8. 0.4 women a year became 4 women a year. Now, a few years later, I'm in a stable relationship If you're not convinced, I recommended this book to several friends who read it voraciously. 2 of them took the advice seriously. They were long term singletons (talking years, here) and found girlfriends within weeks. One of them read it in one evening and had a girlfriend the next day. He was so amazed at how everything clicked so perfectly thanks to the advice in the book. He rang me the next day and was talking about it for hours. The rest of the guys who read it were more skeptical. They remained single. Now...about the book and the eureka effect it had on me. The most important thing about this book is it's moral premise: honesty. If you're struggling with women yet are disturbed by the amoral tricks and tactics that the earlier PUAs used to get women in the sack, then look no further. This book doesn't teach you how to just appear attractive. It's about how to BE attractive. And though beyond the scope of the book, it will plant seeds for you if you ever concern yourself with the moral question of how to BE. The 2nd most important part is that it really helps you to accept the truth about women without succumbing to the pit of nihilism that often accompanies it. This book will help you swallow the red pill without it swallowing you in return. Lastly, Mark's concept of vulnerability is a subtle yet powerful one. And, like most of the advice in this book, it's not only useful for your love life alone. It's subtle because it doesn't register on the radar of many PUAs who will often mistake this concept as displaying weakness and low status. It's also a hard skill to master because there's no step by step guide...or maybe I'm mistaken. Acting and speaking truthfully, perhaps? I remember when I was travelling through Poland and I was out drinking with some hostel residents. One guy was bragging about his escapades during a Bangkok full moon party. Everyone was listening to him listlessly, neither admiringly nor resentfully. But what he was saying unsettled me. This quasi-Dionysian sense of oblivion he was trying to impress us with. So I told everyone how I felt. And it was as if everyone had been awoken from a stupor. Something meaningful had finally been said. It brought the other's latent feelings to the fore and suddenly all eyes were on me. The power of vulnerability.

First of all, I would describe myself as a very experienced dater of women and a well read individual, both in terms of broader intellectual literature and also specifically when it comes to the Dating/ PUA world. I didn't think that there would therefore be all that much that this book would be able to add to what I felt I knew already about how women think and behave and had just come off of reading The Manual by W. Anton (another great book by the way) and just thought this might be more of the same. However, a good friend whose opinion I trust had recommended it to me and so I gave it a go. What can I say? This was a phenomenally insightful book. I am sure everyone learns different things from it, but what was so interesting about it for me was about how it didn't really change my view on women or how they behave, rather it made me look at myself and how I look at women, the value that I place on them and what that says as a reflection of my own self image and (at times) insecurities. The topic of vulnerability and how it is explained in detail in this book is something that I had never consciously thought about as being missing from my perspective on life and so reading it in the way that it is described here is something that I found to be incredibly insightful and has fundamentally changed my world view going forward. Immediately after reading this book I met a girl when out with friends. We ended the night having one of the most deep and emotionally intense conversations that I have ever had with a girl that went on for hours and ended positively and passionately. We are still seeing each other now and each meeting is similarly positive and has an intense passion to it that I haven't experienced with other girls before. Perhaps it is a coincidence but I do feel that the fact that I am being more open in displaying vulnerability now is something that has played a part here. I think a lot of these Game/ PUA/ Dating books get a reputation for being misogynist or derogatory to women. I'm not sure that it is possible to cast that aspersion on this book at all. In that regard it is a very modern, thoughtful book that will change your inner view of yourself in a way that is extremely positive and undoubtedly has consequences that reach far beyond simply your interactions with girls in a sexual context. The ways that it will change you will have positive repercussions on your social interactions more broadly and also help you in your work relations also. I couldn't recommend this more strongly as an essential read for all men who are wondering how to be a better person.

Frustration with loneliness is a touchy subject, and I don't think anyone gets it ALL right. But Mark's book is very good, and comes from a sincere place. Even though I didn't agree with all of it, it was always a fun read. I found this book because I found Mark's website and have enjoyed reading his various posts about things. He's got a great straight-talkin' style which is very enjoyable. What I found helpful about the book was his rationalization of the need to approach people, with practical small steps toward breaking that politeness/timidity barrier. This is legitimately a barrier for me that has built up to a level that now impedes my life. Methods such as starting with eye contact, or just talking to strangers, with no goal or self-interested intent at all, are great tips at how to exercise your social muscles. I definitely need to work on this because I've moved to a big city and don't know anyone there, and I work internationally so I'm really tasked with building a social network from scratch. He offers good advice for me here which I will implement, and he's got a good way of getting it across. I can agree to disagree with him that anyone who works a job that they may be good at but aren't passionate about is going to be demonstrating lower value and be sadly unattractive. Not everyone can be a record producer or play therapist. Mark suggests that by working for the money of a job I'm living dishonestly with myself. I see it as being straight with myself that I'd like to afford to do meaningful and sometimes expensive things when I am away from work, and this is an acceptable way to achieve that. I love art, but I'm also good with numbers. I should point out that many of those people "pushing paper" as he describes it have active and satisfying love lives...so it can't be THAT much of a turn off to have a steady but non-iconic job, can it, Mark? I understand that artists following their muses are sexier in that respect, but some of them also have to sleep in vans a lot, especially since the advent of the digital download. Like everything else in life, one has to choose their own balance. Mark is of course justifiably biased in that he has written his own book and website and is now reaping the benefits of doing exactly what he believes in. Bully for him, and I wish him continued success. But even if it does have an effect on social proof (which I concede it does), it is not a requirement to quit a good job to be attractive enough to find love. It is not even a requirement to quit the job in order to be honest with yourself, so I disagree with him there. I've read the other major PUA books and agree the writers' perspectives come mostly from a deep dark place in the "instructor". Mark's does not, although I think he does assume a little too much that every male is, at core, like him. And I don't know if Mark realises it or not, but he's pretty alpha. Whatever you like, dont' just pursue it, but get in there and LEAD it is his advice. The book ironically has given me a bit more focus on why I'm not attracting more women despite a very high quality personal lifestyle. I work offshore, so although I'm doing very well, dress well, am reasonably attractive, and my lifestyle is skillfully and tastefully indulgent, women never see my leadership in action, because it happens in foreign countries, on ships full of men. The leadership effect is absolutely correct - the periods in my life when I attracted the most women were directly tied to when I was working in leadership roles in their presence, and I lost my last girlfriend to someone who was working in a leadership role within her work sphere. Women like leadership. Leadership and social dominance work. BUT - and here's the other big thing the book helped me realise - part of defining who you are is deciding how many people you actually like to have in your social circles. Mark clearly likes to have plenty of numbers in his phone and to keep contact with a bevy of women who are attractive to him. I think this is the common male fantasy, and power to him, he has achieved this for himself. But I'm a different person. I don't want to have a huge circle of friends with lots of women on call. I prefer a smaller, tighter social set, and I only want one girlfriend, with a goal to make it work for life. If it doesn't work, I want another one girlfriend, etc. We all have our biological urges/imperatives, as Mark acknowledges well. But they're not all the same, or at the same levels. Frankly, I'm pretty sure my urges aren't compelling enough to have me go out and organize an ultimate frisbee team so that I can mesmerize one of its members by holding an ipad, doing the scheduling. Or schlep equipment and waste money going to a yoga class "gold mine" when I'm perfectly content doing yoga with a good DVD for free in my most excellent living room. Which leads us to one of Groucho Marx's most famous quotes - "I wouldn't want to be in any club who would have me for a member." And this is where most of dating advice falls flat for me - because I know demonstrating leadership works, I know boldness works,I know beating your chest and "demonstrating high social proof" works, I know that not giving a damn gets women interested and that showing you're keen does not - I know all of these things. But at core, I don't LIKE that they work, because ultimately, I consider those things to be very low bars and terrible (to the point of being even inversely proportional) indicators of genuine human quality or integrity. Frankly, I can't RESPECT* women who fall for this crap, and I need to respect someone to have even a friendship with them. Neil Strauss ended his infamous book by basically saying he fell in love when he met the woman upon whom his system did not work. Which makes perfect sense to me. *I'm not shouting at you, but I thought emphasis was important here and amazon doesn't allow the italics or bold that I would have preferred. If I desired the company of a being I could manipulate into a relationship with a system of demonstrations and establishment of social dominance, I'd get a dog. And before anyone loses their mind about me just comparing a significant percentage of women to dogs, men are not ANY better, in fact we are probably far, far worse. I know there are very basic and head-slapping principles that work on us too, which it is my job to rise above if I want to live with any integrity. So really, I just compared both sides of humanity to our canine cousins. I'm comfortable standing by that. In a spoken word performance William S Burroughs once asked in a funny voice "Well you could become a great leader, and benefit humanity, what's wrong with that?" He then answered himself in his own voice "...just about everything." A lot of my respected artists are loners and critics of general culture, which basically makes me something of a loner and critic. And that's OK - I actually like and respect that about myself - I just have to accept that not charming women who are predisposed to basic social proof (which is a sickeningly expansive subset, just like equally sickening male traits form an equally expansive subset in men) is going to be a consequence of that, and I'm going to feel generally unattractive sometimes despite what other desirable achievements I might have going for me out outside of the public eye. Mark might respond that this is part of understanding myself and therefore my demographic, and that therefore I should be looking for compatible partners in places where like-minded social critics are likely to congregate. This is correct, and I intend to do just this. But I do think that this book resembles other PUA material in the sense that it does not respect what may be legitimate about people who like smaller groups of more intense friendships. You either have hundreds of social contacts, or else you are a pussy (PUA standard) or you are not living honestly and need to get out there and find your inner leader (Mark). Deciding whether or not you actually LIKE leadership or RESPECT social proof is not a validated decision, but in my opinion this is a critical part of establishing your demographic. I had to read this between the lines of Models. To Mark's credit, Models is the first book of this kind that I've read where this could be found between the lines, because it at least acknowledges the concept of having one's own demographic and respecting it. In conclusion, I can't (or rather won't) work exactly like Mark because we're different people, and we both like it that way. No surprise there, but I think some people read these books a little literally, and don't realise that it's OK to diverge from the philosophy here and there. In order to adopt Mark's outlook on life and people, I think I'd have to decide to like humanity in general a lot more (or at least judge it a lot less), and for me, the evidence doesn't holistically sustain such enthusiasm. But Models was worth the read and the money. I will meet more people as a result of having read it, and as I said at the beginning, Mark is fun to read and I hope he writes more books. Oh and yes, if he wants a proof reader, I'll do it for a nice glass of whiskey or two in Texas or London, because yes, some sentences have jarring word dropouts or other stuff that may be fine for texting, but is ill-fitting in a book, let alone a third revision, dude ;)

This is not just a great book, it is the best book on self-improvement and dating advice ever. For more than 1 year I read Red Pill BS every day. I was sick and tired, didn’t have a great alternative, or you read red pill, or you read mainstream cliché BS, and those guys from the 'manosphere' use cult tactics to convince they are the real and only macho thing. After 1,5 years I decided to give a last chance and try this “Models” that a lot of guys talk about. But I was skeptical because I tought it was too 'soft'. I was wrong. After a few pages I knew this was the true answer to what I really needed: become attractive and understand women very well without changing yourself completly. I got much more than that. Mark Mason doesn’t write simple theories like everybody else. Everything he writes has a lot of cientifical research and his own experience. That is why this is a revolution in seduction knowledge — remember, I had been read dating advice from hundreds of professional "players" every day for 1,5 years, I kept reading because I felt that everything I read was unhealthy theories based on their bad experiences and beliefs about women, only to find out what I already suspected deep down: they are all f*ck*d up in their heads. My advice to every guy who wants to become attractive and learn how to be good with the ladies: buy this book and read it several times. You'll never need to read anything more ever again. Get rid of all Red Pill stuff you have. This is the complete guide, gives you the true attractiveness and seductive knowledge without any "fake it until you make it" or tricks and tactics. No more boy games, this is for real men who have courage to be honest and straight foward. And the most important thing: you won't be a mentally ill women-hater. You will learn to trully admire and understand women for what they are instead of seeing them as labeled objects who are meant to be exploited. Remember guys, women are a very important part of our lives, so it is important learn this right. I am very lucky to have this precious knowledge. Thank you Mark for all the effort!

This is by far the best book I've read on attracting women. I refrain from use the term 'Picking Up' women as this book delves into the process of attraction on a deeper level and not simply picking up random girls. Mark Manson starts the book by talking about the evolution of men and women and how our past as a species effects the attraction process today. He also goes into great detail about things like 'Demographics' and how this can affect our success in attracting women. He address confidence levels in both men and women and also gives great advice on how to present yourself in a confident and honest way. This book is the perfect guide on how to provide a long term solution to your anxiety with approaching women. It also explains how to improve yourself as an individual with things such as health, dress sense and aspirations all covered within the chapters. Although I've never really had a problem attracting women, I did have some slight anxiety with approaching random women who I found attractive. This book gave me the confidence to be able to make an approach without fear of rejection which was the main cause of my anxiety. Mark Manson teaches you to embrace rejection as it is simply a way of finding out who you are and aren't compatible with. Overall a great read and something you can refer back to time and time again. 10/10

This book is very comprehensive offering detailed explanation of why these behaviours are important not just "you have to do this not that" as most PUA or dating advice would say. I also like his writing style and how he divided the book into nicely sequential and logical topics, although minor negative points are the occasional typo and the blank layout as it looks more like fiction (there is not art or images to speak of). However I think this enhances the book in a way not trivializing the content with flashy-ness. I only wish this had been written when I was younger (not in my twenties) as it basically gives you the strength to "be yourself" in the fullest capacity. This book is based on living for yourself, something he supports with psychological explanation ,as a psych undergraduate this appeals but maybe I am biased. This can be the only really healthy way to go about ones dating life and not to become addicted to picking up any women you find attractive as most PUA's seem to purport (AlexSocial on YouTube excepted) as Manson suggests. Overall an excellent manual for a man to be a man with women.

My best mate suggested me to read this book to help me to view women, dating and relationships from a different angle. I can't deny that I was quite sceptic as I had always believed that these topics cannot be explained and detailed in a book. I was totally wrong! However, this is not a book which provides you a magic formula to use to hook up girls. This is something more! It gives you a deep insight into your mistakes when you approach a woman. It's about mindset and self confidence rather than technique. Bearing this in mind, "Models" won't let you down. The writing style is pleasant and the author makes each chapter interesting and easy to read. Key aspects are highlighted and covered over the all book. I am now following Mark Manson blog as I do like how he approach important themes suck as women. I recommend this with no hesitation.

About 3 years ago, while i was at uni, I fell into some great relationships and had some amazing experiences with more than a few women. I felt really confident in myself and things were going great. Most of these 'results' came down to me adopting a philosophy which was pretty much the same as what Models teaches. However at the same time, I was also discovering the world of Pick Up and started to learn about 'magic tips' and techniques which apparently would have women lining up at my door waiting to have sex with me. As i discovered more and more of these techniques, I started to use some of these methods on girls, From using these techniques I got myself a 2 for 1 deal. Not only did these methods push girls away from me (for the most part they completely lost interest), I also lost the connection with myself. I didn't know what I was supposed to do or how i was supposed to act. What line would work best? Which method should I use in this situation? Should I go direct or indirect? Should I act aloof or be aggressive? How was I supposed to be? Since reading this I have found a weight being lifted off my shoulders, as Mark teaches you the core principles of what it means to be a real man and how to get yourself to open up to women. Would recommend to any guy (or even girl) who is struggling with relationships. But if you are only interested in gimmicks or techniques then this probably wont work for you, as this goes far deeper than that.

The book is very easy to read with examples. Also the author focuses on practical actions which makes it even better.

It’s not about technics but it’s about mind set. Only mind set can expand our ability consecutively and naturally.

Truly an amazing journey of self-discovery and learning.

Models by Mark Manson has had a significant impact on my self-confidence and personal growth. Although I’m still single, this book helped me feel much more comfortable and confident in my own skin, which has been transformative in many ways. Real, Honest Approach: What sets this book apart is its emphasis on authenticity and honesty. Instead of relying on gimmicks or tricks, the focus is on being true to yourself and developing genuine confidence. This approach resonated with me deeply, and I appreciated the straightforward and no-nonsense style of writing. Personal Growth Beyond Dating: While the book is about attracting women, it’s more than just a dating guide. It dives into self-improvement, helping you become a better version of yourself—someone who is confident, self-assured, and comfortable with who they are. The lessons I’ve learned from Models go far beyond dating and have impacted how I approach many areas of my life. Results in Self-Confidence: Even though I haven’t found a relationship yet, I already feel much more confident interacting with others. This book has given me the tools to approach situations with honesty and self-assurance, and that, in itself, has been incredibly rewarding. Conclusion: I highly recommend Models to anyone looking to build their confidence and approach relationships (and life in general) from a place of honesty and authenticity. Whether you're seeking a relationship or simply want to feel better about yourself, this book offers valuable insights that will help you grow as a person.

Classic read. Essential information.